Statistics show that less than half the people who make new year’s resolutions are able to keep them past 6 months. If you are one of the many people who made resolutions to live a healthier life and proactively work to maintain your improved mood, here are some things you can do to be one of the fortunate few who stick with it:
- Accept partial credit. When you think “all or nothing” you set yourself up for failure. No one can maintain an all or nothing regimen. If your plan is not to eat cookies, but you eat one, that does not mean the day is lost and you might as well eat the whole package. All or nothing thinking creates failure and excuses to not try. If you eat one cookie, put the bag away and try not to eat a second. If you eat a second, try to resist eating a third. Labeling yourself as a failure and consuming the entire package does not help. It is easier to recover from fewer cookies than the whole box.
- Forgive yourself and others. Stop being judgmental. Be kind. If you “slip” and have a cigarette when you’ve resolved to quit, tell yourself you will do a better job next time. Don’t call yourself names (“Weak! Stupid”). Beating yourself up verbally or emotionally only leads to further failure.
- Recognize that life and happiness are a journey, not a destination. If things are going well in your life, and you are finding joy and contentment, it will not last. Bad times pass, but good times do too. Recognize that ongoing happiness requires ongoing work and attention. It also requires flexibility and adjustment. If it’s not working, ask for help. Try something different.
- Recognize what you can control. Take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. You may not be able to control every thought that pops into your head (especially old ingrained negative thoughts), but you can control what you do with it. You don’t have to continue thinking negatively, worsening your mood. You can change that. You don’t have to keep doing the same bad behavior. Don’t treat yourself like a helpless victim. You can stop, or make a different choice.
- Lastly, believe in the power of hope and change. If your life is not going well, it doesn’t have to stay like that. Here at Ketamine Wellness Centers, people change their lives for the better on a daily basis. Call us and hear the testimonials from people whose lives have been forever changed. Take control of your life. Your journey to wellness starts with a phone call. Let us show you what a successful treatment can do to make your life better and keep those promises to yourself!
Dr. Ellen Diamond is the Clinical Psychologist for Ketamine Wellness Centers, Inc.